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As a dad, sometimes you get it right and sometimes you don’t. The important part is that when your son is on a kids bouncy house that doubles as a water slide and he tells you to come and play with him… you do it. Here’s my son using me as a human sled.

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Nailed it! My boy jumped right up and wanted to do it again.

3 Commitments – Mine and God’s


About  three weeks ago my pastor asked me what I felt like the 3 most important things I am committed to  in my life.  Commitments can feel like juggling some times, trying to keep all the important things going without dropping something that matters.  I wrote these three things down on a card that day:

1. Wife   2. Son   3. Job

I think what I was getting at with the third one, was the work I set out to do, being honorable with the time I spend during the day.  While Pastor Todd did not discount any commitments to family or loved ones he spelled out the three things that God wants us to be committed to.

1. Tithes  2. Serving  3. Prayer

REALITY CHECK. I need to keep these three things in the forefront of my plans, both daily and long-term.

Mattofact: Commitments matter. Knowing exactly what you are committed to is the first step.

Peace On The Water


My brother-in-law got a boat last week. He took me out on the water just north of Cincinnati to a lake called Ceasar Creek. Well, we went out on the lake created by the damn at Ceasar’s Creek, it’s actually called Ceasar Creek Lake. From this site here, you can see the Army Core of Engineers operate the damn to control the high waters from spring rain. They built and operate the damn.  It’s a spot I have always heard about growing up in Cincinnati but never went to until the other day.

Hanging with the family was great. Tubing with my brother and watching my brother-in-law do a little wake boarding was pretty killer. The best part though was riding in the front of the boat at a decent speed as it lightly rained. The wind, the rain, the loud motor roaring, and the speed on the water gave me a bit of peace. There are just those moments of calm, those times of no distraction, when you can’t be distracted if you tried.  It was a great day. Go somewhere in your city you’ve heard about but haven’t been yet. Chances are there’s a reason people talk about it so highly.

Mattofact: Do something that is peaceful to you. It will clear your mind.



“Friends, how many of us have them?” That’s the line from a famous hip hop song I listened to when I was a kid. It’s a killer song by the group Whoodini. But even better, it is still a killer question. Getting through life with killer friends is important. It’s difficult, but important. It’s dangerous, but it’s important. It’s draining, but worth it. It’s challenging, but needed. It’s tiresome, but invaluable. Are you sharpening iron with iron, doing life with a few people throughout decades (not months)? Find a friend you can walk through the tough times with. You will have them, and a great friend will keep you sharp when the heat and pressure is on.

Mattofact: Great friends do matter, and close friends are crucial.

Family is family no matter where family is


I left DMDays in NY and went to NJ. I took the NJ Transit from Penn Station over to Metuchen where my cousin picked me up. Some lady asked the ticket taker on the train how he knows to punch the ticket the exact amount of times… she noticed it was different each time like I did, so there had to be a reason. He answered “I have to punch it twice atleast, so I punch it three times for fun and sometimes four out of habit”. Hilarous. Just when you think there is an unquestionable science to something, you find out the guys is just bored and punches your ticket more than twice just for kicks. It seems his position should have been long replaced with an entry or scan system. I would have rather that he made up an intrigueing story on punching my ticket due to the length of the ride. If it were me, I’d buy an old ticket puncher and embrace the nastalgia – like this one from 1900.

My cousin picked me up and I went to his business then stayed at their house for a few days. Went to his sister’s, my other cousin and hung out with her family. They are the cousin’s I grew up only seeing occasionly each year, but somehow stayed close to them over the years. They all are married with kids now, so when I took pics and posted of thier kids playing hockey and of hanging out at their house – my sister from my mom’s side FB’d me and wanted to know about this double life I lead. Hilarious. Even in my own family the stories, experiences, and people are too big to keep up with across all the half’s and step’s and 2nd’s and ‘by mairrage’. I’m just glad that family is family no matter where family is. And it’s hilarious that the same family things that pop off on one side, are somehow at work in another – family is messy and fun all at once. It was great to see everyone, I don’t care if it took me two, three, or four punches in my ticket to get there.

Mattofact: If you haven’t seen your family in a while – go see them.

Well Connected?


Sitting in a cafe… with friends and realized how disconnected I am with them, and how connected to everyone else both they and I are. There are 5 of us here and I think we are all carrying on text, twitter, and fb convos with a few other people each, as well as some with each other. One of my boys has checked out, he doesn’t want to be here.  Just to paint the picture for you, the conversation is light, and spring, but almost everyone is enjoying the hang. Anyhow, while sitting with them, hanging out, supposedly visiting and breaking bread with my boys – I realized could do a short blog post from here and note the night from my phone. So, who are those around you connecting with while they are ‘with you’ while they are hanging, drinking, eating, visiting with you. With 5 people hanging out and on their phones, there could be 25+ conversations happening – not to mention social posts with responses.

Mattofact: Conversations with friends are important, and talking to each other is crucial.